Uncultured
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Daniella Mestyanek Young
"A painful and propulsive memoir delivered in the honest tones of a woman who didn’t always think she’d live to tell her story." —The New York Times A Buzzfeed Best Book of September In the vein of Educated and The Glass Castle, Daniella Mestyanek Young's Uncultured is more than a memoir about an exceptional upbringing, but about a woman who, no matter the lack of tools given to her, is determined to overcome. Behind the tall, foreboding gates of a commune in Brazil, Daniella Mestyanek Young was raised in the religious cult The Children of God, also known as The Family, as the daughter of high-ranking members. Her great-grandmother donated land for one of The Family’s first communes in Texas. Her mother, at thirteen, was forced to marry the leader and served as his secretary for many years. Beholden to The Family’s strict rules, Daniella suffers physical, emotional, and sexual abuse—masked as godly discipline and divine love—and is forbidden from getting a traditional education.At fifteen years old, fed up with The Family and determined to build a better and freer life for herself, Daniella escapes to Texas. There, she bravely enrolls herself in high school and excels, later graduating as valedictorian of her college class, then electing to join the military to begin a career as an intelligence officer, where she believes she will finally belong. But she soon learns that her new world—surrounded by men on the sands of Afghanistan—looks remarkably similar to the one she desperately tried to leave behind.Told in a beautiful, propulsive voice and with clear-eyed honesty, Uncultured explores the dangers unleashed when harmful group mentality goes unrecognized, and is emblematic of the many ways women have to contort themselves to survive.
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Author
Daniella Mestyanek Young
Pages
352
Publisher
St. Martin's Publishing Group
Published Date
2022-09-20
ISBN
1250280125 9781250280121
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"Uncultured is a powerful and necessary memoir told with remarkable clarity and restraint. Daniella Mestyanek Young opens the door to two worlds many readers have never truly seen—first, the apocalyptic cult The Children of God, and later, the rigid, patriarchal culture of the U.S. Army. She draws distinct and disturbing parallels between them, highlighting how systems of control, coercion, and dehumanization thrive in very different environments.<br/><br/>What stands out most is the way she tells her story. Despite the traumatic content, Mestyanek never sensationalizes her pain. Her writing is direct, intelligent, and accessible—somehow both emotionally grounded and analytical. She invites the reader into her lived experiences without triggering them, making the horror palpable but bearable.<br/><br/>This is not just a story about surviving a cult. It’s a story about power, obedience, gender, and the insidious ways institutions shape (and often erase) individual identity. The fact that the second half of this book—the part about her military service—is just as harrowing as the first is a chilling reminder that cult-like dynamics are not limited to fringe groups."