The Let Them Theory

"Exactly what I needed. Thank you! Really enjoyed and appreciate all the real life examples, the research and studies provided, the angles and advice. Whatever stages in life, a tool for anyone. 💖"

"I would give this a 3.5. I think as a therapist this was super helpful to use in practice. However personally I could only relate to certain chapters. Was very well written though and hope to use the let them theory in my everyday life. "

"A book everyone can benefit from reading. A strategy to let others be themselves, while you also be you!"

"This was a great listen! I will definitely be returning to this audiobook in the future for any hard days!"

"Life changing. Everyone needs a copy of this book. "

"What a swift kick in the ass. <br/><br/>I’m gonna be so real with y’all for a second: I usually read the fluffy romances or the mysteries or the thrillers and every once in a while, there will be a science fiction or even a non-fiction in there somewhere. This is a non fiction self care book that I didn’t know I needed until I started it. It showed up on Tik Tok, two weeks after I started going to therapy again, and I stared at the wall and said “why not?” So the following weekend, my husband and I go to Barnes and Noble and I buy it. <br/><br/>I have dealt with issues surrounding anxiety, chronic comparison, and just straight existentialism for a while. And you may be thinking, “you’re 23, wtf do you mean?” And what I mean is exactly what I said. I’ve been to therapy before for other reasons but I recently went back for those listed above, so when this popped up out of nowhere, I figured there was no harm in seeing what it was about. <br/><br/>Back to the book: Mel Robbins, you and your daughters work? Inspiring. I’m not going to stop my sessions because of this book, but it gave me so many tools and so many perspectives to not only issues I’ve been faced with, but also issues those around me have experienced. I feel like I know how to regulate and maintain myself, as well as how to be a better friend, wife, and person in general. Robbins goes into the why and how this theory can work in your life for years to come with science, and inspirational and personal anecdotes. <br/><br/>I adore this book, and it will carry it with me (not literally) for a long time."

"10 million stars!!!!"

"This is a game enhancer for me relative to my perceptions and responses with people both in my circle and out. I listened to the audio and also read along with parts of the book. There are many moments where there is some additional input in the audio. I think it’s because Mel is the narrator and she adds tidbits from her heart / experience in the moment of the subject at hand. Mel’s delivery is personalized. Many times her emotions come through which was touching to me especially when the topics hit on my own experiences and several aha moments personally in moving forward with life, relationships and more than just application but succeeding and experiencing inner peace by incorporating the tools found in her book. She expounds on how to process, react (or not) and move on for oneself and with people. Personally I have found success in my relationships and personal wellbeing through study of the Bible and applying the guidelines & principles within its covers. Mel’s research coupled with her own experiences, for me enhanced understanding and my application of all I’ve learned & continue to apply from scripture incorporating the psychology and scientific perspective she shares within the pages. I will read this again.<br/><br/>I’d like to add, I’ve read some of the lower star reviews on this that obviously describe the opposite take away than what I experienced. At first, I was perplexed by the negativity, but then I put what I learned from this publication into action. We are all individuals with our own individuality. We all have our own life experiences, perspectives, genetics and brokenness which dictate our likes and dislikes. So, I would say at least give the book a chance. Why not find out if there is potential for you to benefit from this? If it’s not for you, that’s perfectly fine! Because you are you. And I’m thinking you’ll know when it’s time to set the book down, if it’s not resonating with you. My experience and takeaway was incredibly positive because I am me. Obviously I am not exactly the same as anyone let alone those that left the lower star reviews. So, I can’t disagree with their review because that’s their take away and perspective. They have every right to share it. I chose to “Let Them” because they’re giving their honest opinion on this book based on who they are and what their perception is. And then, I “let me“. I didn’t get mad or expend negative energy by letting their review affect me because they’re just being themselves and they have every right. And so you “let me“, meaning read it for yourself and if it doesn’t pull you through the whole book, then stop reading it. How will you know if this is something you can benefit from unless you read it? You might be saying, yeah, but now I’ve spent the money on this book, now what? Pass it on. Let the person know, it wasn’t a fit for you, but maybe they can benefit from it and if so, you’ve just given a gift that worked for them and so on and so forth.<br/><br/>And a closing side note: I can say with confidence that Mel isn’t affected by the negative reviews because she practices the “Let Them” theory and then she incorporates “Let Me” recognizing in the grand scheme of things, It doesn’t affect her at all because we are all who we are individually and again, they have a right to their opinion. And I might just add that this is a #1 best seller! More people have benefited from this than those who haven’t. Maybe that should be testimony in itself to give it a try."